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Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

sad987 — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 12:55:34 -0000

just me
i wonder if he ever did cheat on you and how you would really feel if he did. its the worst feeling on earth!!!!!!!! especially if u found out on your own and he didnt tell u. and he slept with u after HER. u feel dirty, naive, scared of possible illnesses and have this extreme emptiness inside u.....feeling u did everything possible for your partner of 4 years and this is what u get back? how on earth can u ever trust a man after that? any man!!!!!

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

Someone — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 15:44:03 -0000

Whatever you do, I think you should keep in mind that "I feel unimportant to you" doesn't mean "Our sex is unsatisfactory." It probably means exactly what he said: he doesn't/didn't feel like he matters to you.
Which is not to say you should overlook the fact that he hurt you.

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

Someone — Fri, 14 Jan 2011 15:29:55 -0000

Thank you. There are so many people who seem to think that only men have sex drives and so would rape if prostitution was illegalized, when it's all really just about what they feel entitled to. Men have raped women when it was acceptable. Now it's not, so instead they go to prostitution, which is expected if not acceptable. The real root of the problem is really what you say: that relationships are too often about what the other person can give you and not who they are.

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goldengirl12 — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 22:47:44 -0000

simple get rid of him.

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Julz — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 15:31:23 -0000

Who really cares? Unless the women are being forced/raped or living in poverty (in which case just give her some cash and compliments without the sexual stuff or report the situation to the proper authorities -if possible), who really cares?

If you are married and feel hurt because your spouse had sex with another person (paid for or not), is it really hurtful? You have to learn how to love yourself. If you love yourself and show other people in your life how to love, you will get that back in return. Just like modeling for children, it works on adults as well. I'm not suggesting an open marriage, I'm suggesting that marriage takes effort and that finding a person to share your life with is just that--sharing, not completing you or them.

Now for the real topic of men and prostitutes-it's a for sure thing! But people please realize that the men (or women) looking for the street level prostitutes really might have bigger issues than just infidelity. Not only are the prostitutes objects, but they become objects that no one cares about and that's not good. We're talking about super horrible social problems, or insecurities that lead to victimization.

We cannot know a person 100% or put an absolute generalization over a demographic, but we can learn to love ourselves and you may be surprised on what kind of affect that might have on your family and social circle-not to mention your outlook on life.

Peace. Love. Happiness.

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

hekate_darkness — Thu, 09 Dec 2010 20:11:49 -0000

There's no point respecting a culture that engages in extreme human rights abuses. The US may have its flaws, but there is no such thing as the practice of female infanticide here. Nor do women get acid thrown in their faces just because they desire a divorce.

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Jessica Hogan — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 21:25:58 -0000

"not even emotionally?" ..... she shd be a superwoman, meaning, NOT HUMAN!! haha

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zero0grav — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 20:31:36 -0000

Haha sheesh most often just some horny dude witha a little money and low self esteme who gets blown off by women

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Lennyl — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 21:46:50 -0000

Men are sad losers, abusing slaggy women to feed their egos and spending their money to do it.
Come on you women start cheating more and why not with your partners more attractive best friends, and it always costs you nothing;-)

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

philis89 — Thu, 04 Nov 2010 16:33:45 -0000

Let me tell you my experience. I'm a man who was in a relationship for three years with a girl I loved but it broke up and, three months later and for whatever reason, I found myself in a London brothel. As my surfing of this internet site indicates, it is something that I did that continues to occupy my mind, and somehow I managed to get through a very stressful time professionally while all this was going on. I take full responsibilty for it, I was drunk, happy and with another bloke at the end of a night out, but I accept that it was my decision although I wish it hadn't happened. Immediately afterwards I felt worthless, remorseful and guilty - like I'd committed a terrible sin against the girl involved (like I'd hurt her emotionally). Initially I dealt with these feelings by resolving to go back to see the girl - not for sex but to talk to her, to try and understand what it is that I'd done. I spoke to her on three occasions, each time she couldn't really understand why I didn't want sex, and she was/is a perfectly nice, pleasant girl who deserves (just like everyone else) to be loved and cared for. That's my view and because I now feel a certain emotionally attachment to her I bloody hope that she does have a happy life - and I know that, despite the part of me that wants it to be me, the circumstances in which we met means it can't. Now - having said all this - to all those people posting messages on this site with 'hollier than thou' attitudes about how any man who visits a prostitute is a worm or 'are the lowest of the low and the scum of the earth, if not the entire universe(hekate_darkness)', maybe you will come to the opinion that some men recognise it was a mistake, feel appropriately bad about it and deserve to move on with their lives. Hekate_darkness, despite whatever bad things you feel men have done to you, wouldn't you feel better if you forgave and moved on too?

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

Just Me — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 23:45:12 -0000

I personally would rather my man see a prostitute, as long as he is using protection - She can do the weird kinks he likes so I don't have to! It also let's me know he is not looking for someone to replace me, just meeting certain odd sexual needs he enjoys. He doesn't have to cheat, I tell him it is ok! I would rather have him honest with me than running around behind my back. 1 hour every few months or so is all it takes to get his kinks worked out. Fine with me! :-)

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

slicks777 — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 04:40:07 -0000

"It is a rape that's paid for, that's all." Very harsh words in which i disagree. It's a business transaction that has been excepted between a man and women. It is not by force. It's one of the oldest professions of the world and many women have become very rich from this. It is also much safer than picking up a women from the club and having sex. Many sex workers are checked monthly with a doctors certificate. I like your name. From witchcraft-Queen of darkness and the underworld right?

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slicks777 — Wed, 29 Sep 2010 04:24:02 -0000

I really don't understand why women and men abuse eachother about marriage as the comments above. If that's how you see men as fat slobs that just watch porn and eat themselves to death. Then why ever get married? Do you honestly think men like to be nagged. That's what mothers are for! Ive noticed many husbands and wives stay in a marriage for convenience, religious reasons and are comfortable with eachother, rather than finding the right person who is compatible. Ive known of many women that have cheated on their husbands. It's not always the man. We are at the tail end of a dying fairytale that we call marriage. To be with one person for the rest of your life,(to me) is unnatural and bizarre. Men have a primal urge to procreate, and not necessary with one women. That's why i believe prostitutes play a vital role in society.

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bryankj — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 12:13:44 -0000

and i want to add.. a very fair judgement for both sides and gender

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bryankj — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 12:11:59 -0000

e town brown this is the best written article on sex and relationship that I have seen or read in a very very long time. absolute kudos

and really enlightening

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Big Ben — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 19:11:13 -0000

Granted we are not cavemen, but most certainly are animals. Evolution is not crap, but it can't happen if we deny our animal roots. SOME people are intelligent and sophisticated, others are not. SOME people live by laws and morals, others do not. And some choose to live by only the laws and morals that they find convenient at the time, which gives them a badly needed source adulation and self-righteousness without limiting their choices too much. Also, you're assuming that Etown can't handle the responsibilities of being a 'real man'. You falsely assume that because this guy is aware of his human weaknesses that he also allows them to control him. I think there are two kinds of men in the world - those who have polygamous sexual urges and those that lie about not having them. I also think people who are aware of their weaknesses and openly discuss them probably have a far better chance at rising above than the "grow up, control your urges, hear no evil, and see no evil" crowd, of which you seem to be a card-carrying member.

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alsohadenough — Sun, 22 Aug 2010 17:53:53 -0000

Mr hadenough, I really do think something went wrong in your life, you obviously hate woman and I do think you have a much more serious problem as being discussed here. If I was the same as you I would have hated all men, but luckily I am a bit more realistic than you to know not all men are the same and not all woman are the same. Please explain to me why would a man (or person) go to prostitutes when they have a loving partner who (and this is really true) don't nag, are a wonderful friend to their husband, thinks the sun shine out of his...you know what (and treats him that way) loves their children, are a whore in the bed (and actually really enjoys it!!) looks after him financially (although he is very successful in his own right but doesn't bring in a 1/4 of which she does)....(and believe me I am very sensitive regarding this matter, because I know how important it is for a man to be the provider), a wife who loves excitement and are not the typical routine person, a woman who respects a man, a woman who don't ask anything from man not even emotionally, only to be a team player and her best friend, why does such a man go to prostitutes?

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

alexgrachev — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:18:16 -0000

A man turns to escort service to let go... It's a common myth that he comes to satisfy his sexual desires... Yes, of course, but it's not the only, and may be not the main reason...
He turns to a stranger with whom he can be whoever he wants... Whoever he may be is not (in his own eyes)... He just lets go of a chatter in his head that tell him about all unfulfilled responsibilities and liabilities...

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

fully evolved — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 06:20:18 -0000

I am sick of all this primal bullshit. We are not cavemen anymore, nor are we animals. We are an intelligent sophisticated species governed by laws and morals. Grow up and stop that evolutionary crap. Try controlling your impulses you weak piece of crap. If you can't handle the responsibilities of being a 'real man' in a relationship piss off and use your hookers.

Re: The Psychology Behind Men and Prostitutes

LeezaB — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 16:19:32 -0000

Men don't like prozzies because they're drug-addled, disease-ridden, brainless skanks (which they are -- yep, all of 'em, every single one). Men who are saddled with needy, weepy, grouchy, tantrum-y, overemotional, childish women like prozzies... because prozzies are none of those irritating things. They may be clap-riddled junkies, but they're strong, they're independent, and they don't complicate sex with a litany of complaints and favours to be asked. Remember: someone once said "You don't pay prostitutes for the sex. No. You pay them to go away afterwards."

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Me — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 14:45:27 -0000

SOOO true. If men weren't nagged they would just come home from work then proceed to sleep, watch porn and eat themselves to a heart attack at 40. All while we cook, clean, take care of the kids and worry about gaining a pound or getting a wrinkle because you might use that as an excuse to cheat on us. Try being a woman for a day and see what it's like.

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Sex Toys For Couples — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 01:11:45 -0000

Definitely right. As a man be the best dad for your kids and best husband for your wife.

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Menrpigs — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 04:16:04 -0000

If you men weren't such misogynistic aholes there would be nothing to nag about. If you didn't sit on the couch all day watching the Simpsons and acting like you are still in high school no one would bother you. Thank God you're never getting married, I would pity any woman who would choose YOU.

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hekate_darkness — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 13:45:31 -0000

Yes it is absolutely about entitlement Jan. The john is always some soulless zombie who has all the time and money in the world and relishes the unequal relationship of forcing a woman who is down on her luck to have sex.

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Guest — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 13:38:21 -0000

Right, because I know the term 'john' I must be a prostitute. It's bizarre how men who see sex workers think the public-at-large has no clue what they're getting up to. Your dirty secret has been out for a long, long time. And the fact that you think that any sex worker could ever 'enjoy' her work, shows me that you've fallen for the whole act. None of those women are doing it for the kicks. And it doesn't take an 'insider' to know that.