Nice content. But always remember guys, a successful man,behind him always has a woman supporting him. So don't call for prostitutes service again and try to manage an intimate relationship with your wife and family.
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· 1 year ago
From a mans perspective - Perhaps the guy simply doesn't want to put up with nagging, complaining, and a generally annoying situation. He simply wants to fulfill his biological needs and be not put up with everything else that comes with being married. A reason exists why prostitution is the worlds oldest profession.
Dad
· 1 year ago
Monogamy causes prostitution. Men want a harem. It's probably what's driving the divorce rate. Women only know what it's like to be a man when they are in "heat". One or two days a month. We have to live that way every minute of every day. Well maybe not right after........ : )
erp
· 1 year ago
good post...i think for us humans...infatuation and love just simply doesnt mix...sad to say though.
fenix
· 1 year ago
Infatuation is the root of all evil!! lol
thanks for post, will trackback.
AM
· 1 year ago
Michael Bader's article was interesting and agree with parts of it.
Hmmm..."A prostitute serves as a slave to a man’s needs. She is an actress, although to the man, he does not care that what he is receiving for his money is a one-woman play and an act that he gets to be nothing but a prop in. " This is a sweeping generalization that contradicts my and plenty of others' working experience. Did I feel like a slave to individual clients? No. Not at all. In the grand scheme perhaps but not directly with my clients. As wrong as they may be for cheating and lying, they're not all aggressive and violent. Selfish? Sure. But that's not synonomous with intentionally cruel.
Something I found odd right from the get-go was that many of the men were seeking validation and reassurance and really want to believe our words are genuine. For some men, the ego is satiated by displays of moronic macho aggression, but plenty of others just want to buy the illusion that they can satisfy a woman. IME, they were not unpleasant to spend time with, and plenty do make efforts to please us, albeit unsuccessfully in many cases. For me, what was really unexpected was how many men really seem to want to be coddled, petted, and reassured, even outside of a sexual context. Going in I braced myself for the "wham-bam" attitudes and treatment, but that turned out to be exception rather than rule. My clients generally demanded lots of time and attention.
Just pointing out that variation does exist within prostitution. The scripts all ultimately lead to the same ends, but they're not written identically and there is no set tone. We may be actresses, but that doesn't mean we're incapable of experiencing some measure of pleasure. There are women that hate going through the motions, understandably, but that doesn't apply to every prostitute. Hell, the sex was one of my favorite parts to the date, at least for a few years there. The root of the problem is male privilege, which makes the selfish sex and violence a reality out of a sense of entitlement to do so.
Why do men see prostitutes? You really want to know? Because they CAN. What kind of men come to us? Any kind, all kinds. Preachers, pediatricians, attorneys, techies, entrepreneurs, utility workers, foreign exchange students, Catholic school teachers, professors, truck drivers, chefs, men that live in their parents' basement, law enforcement officials, military personnel, veterans, and, of course, politicians. Any race, any religion (in fact the uber-religious seem especially enchanted with seeing prostitutes), just so long as he can afford to pay. And there is a price out there to suit any budget.
Sure, some men are trying to escape their responsibilities and troubles. And some are just misbehaving little shits, screaming "Look what I can do!" Many are quite smug, impressed with their ability to pull a fast one on their wives. A few claim their wives have serious medical or psychological conditions, removing intimacy at home as an option. And as another commenter mentioned: some men just feel they're entitled to a harem (though most freak at the idea of their wives taking another lover).
So, IME, the men weren't usually overly-aggressive or outwardly resentful (though it certainly does happen). Most of mine could be considered downright jovial, but why wouldn't they be? They're living it up! They have money to burn!
As the clients so fondly like to remind us: "We don't pay you to fuck, we pay you to leave afterwards!" Yep, it's their party and they're all hopped up on superiority, insensitivity and disillusionment.
Extended exposure leads to jadishness.
They'll cry when they're caught, but it's just another act. Once forgiven and enough time has elapsed, many return to seeing prostitutes. Sometimes I wonder whose the greater actor here, us or them? The performances over the phone talking to their wives, with a woman laying in the bed waiting... It leaves little doubt of their overall opinion of women. The mothers of their children, their wives, the women they parade around in their politics and religion to promote the "sanctity of marriage"...and not only do they lie and cheat, but they're awfully damn proud of themselves. Do you know why? Because chances are she's going to take him back. He knows our dirty little secret...we depend on him.
Now, why do politicians cheat when they have so much to lose? Because they possess this false sense of invincibility. They're supermen, drunk on status and power, who can do what they want even if it blatantly contradicts the values they judge others by and profess to hold dear. It's bullshit. But most politicians are bullshit. Besides, all of their buddies are doing the same thing and they don't want to feel left out.
Reader's Digest made the most sense! ;)
Shiloh Tripp
· 1 year ago
I think you are all overlooking the fact that women cheat just as much as men do... especially the women in positions of power or authority.
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· 1 year ago
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Reena
· 1 year ago
I have a slightly different take on men who visit prostitutes. From an Indian perspective, many rural men live in urban areas to earn a living so that their families in the villages don't starve. These men are simply fulfilling a biological need when they visit prostitutes. In this, the sex industry acts as a release mechanism for these men and performs an important social function.
vinita
· 1 year ago
Reena I beg to differ with u as I have personally experienced this aspect of indian married men visting prostitutes and urban ones at that.In fact men do it for reasons that r absolutely horrenodous like to have variety,coz it s affordable and there is opportunity.It s been so close and painful for me since I discovered my husband has been to prostitutes not just one but several like moroccons, thai, etc ,etc in an indian metro.We are a lovely, highly educated respectable family wth two wonderful kids.He is living at the best address in town,is very well to do,has a smart highly educated and successful tech wife wth a great sense of humour,but that didn t stop him from not only having sex wth them but also performing oral sex and all other sick acts of intimacy.The worst aspect was that he was manipulated by the last whore into so called falling in love wth her and has promised her a marriage and custody of both my children wth a promise to him that she will not have children of her own to be fair to mine.Ialways thot and so did my friends that we had everythng going for us wth a global real estate profile,rocking bizness in imports,great sex life and waht have u.My therapist says it s only 2 percent of these cheating men that r caught while d others go undetected.With men travelling across continents on bizness and wth so many escort agents on d net,dont be complacent,ur husband cud be doing it under ur nose.It s only becoz of my high level of intution an IQ and of course God s divine hand, Istumbled upon d truth and believe me when I say it has devastated my family, my children, my booming career and my face with constant weeping.I wouldn t wish this on my worst enemy.Everybody is involved- the five star hotels,the police,underworld and the politicians.There are hundreds of families which r destroyed everyday wth children s secure lives going beserk,that s d saddest part of it all .The authorities should take action and ban all escort services sites on the net as prostitution is still illegal in India.Jus becoz these men who r worse that dogs on d street cannot keep their libido under chek, innocent women like me and my kids should nt pay such a heavy price.....
Jan
· 10 months ago
Anyone who thinks prostitution is victimless, should read Reena's comments again.
Pippo
· 1 month ago
Vinita, you're basing your theory on the fact that the marriage you refer to is fulfilling for the husband, so that it's a perversion to go with prostitutes, and that the other families are "destroyed" by prostitution for the same mechanism.
But can you prove that the opposite is false, that is, that the marriage is actually a failure (romantically and/or sexually speaking) and going with prostitutes is a consequence?
I'm not supporting prostitutes of course, but to me it's more likely, though again each case is different, that a marriage is unsatisfactory and that a man tries to escape from it, rather than a marriage is assumed to be satisfactory and the man tries to escape because is sick.
AM
· 1 year ago
I agree with you too Reena. Prostitution serves lots of different functions and is more complicated than we tend to give it credit.
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· 1 year ago
Reena I see your point, but the fact is that many of these guys are not rural farmers in India! Many of them have a family (and a sex-neglected wife) waiting a few miles away.
Either way, I think prostitutes do serve an important function - overall a victimless crime when only adults are involved, IMO.
Poesis
· 1 year ago
Let me just say a few words concerning the following statement:
"Our culture represents women as high maintenance individuals who must be cared for by a man and are otherwise helpless in life, always needing the attention and demanding the security of a man."
This is true to an extent. This is the effect that media and mass communication has on men. But to say that "those exaggerations are often false", excuses the fact that this effects women also. Men may feel that their partners need them for stability, but in many cases, the women begin to believe it also. This view within our culture effects women just as much as men.
So, it is not only men that need to change, it is women also. They're not entirely innocent, and nothing will change until the mindset of men AND women change.
Thanks.
andrew
· 1 year ago
married men are not the only customers. majority are unmarried and non-committed males.
the reason why prostitution exists is because men need casual sex more than women. if women and men both needed casual sex equally there would be no need for somthing like prostitution as they would do it with each other.
seconldy those women who want casual sex would be very selective and choosing only men of higher standards. bcos women are in a bargaining position.
the result is that the average male has limited opportunites to get casual sex socially. hence the need for prostitutes.
as far as married people are concerned women cheat on husbands too. but they wont need male prostitutes as they can easily do it with some hot neighbour guy. men are willing to lower their standards significantly when it comes to casual sex.
so i think women should think twice before pointing a finger at men who visit prostitutes
cjseriy
· 1 year ago
thanks for interesting info! :)
Akshay125
· 1 year ago
i think poverty is one of the basic caused of the prostitutions. No women wants to be a prostitute with her own will. There must be some kind of helplessness or some kind of bad powers of the society which let them to do so. We must understand the root cause of the problem. Though in some country prostitution is an occupation as any other.
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· 1 year ago
suspect that casual sleeping around is far more damaging to a woman than prostitution, given the likely resulting emotional confusion and turmoil. The prostitute can fairly easily create a sort of emotional distance between herself and her clients, largely because she knows exactly why she's sleeping with them: the reason is money. As above yes, in some countries prostitution is legal becuase they know the logic behind emotional and logical relationship between a men an her women, and between a client and a prostitute.
Strong
· 1 year ago
Vinita I must say that your comment is the only one I agree with. My prayers go out to you. I can't believe there are so many people commenting as if prostitution is ok. I can not say I blame the women because yes there are a lot of women that only do it for the money. They will have to deal with their consequences they will face with karma soon enough in their own lives. I did enjoy the article. However excuses, excuses! Women stop being the fools. Know that these things happen on a regular. And thinking that it won't happen to you because your family is well off is idiocy. You are the main ones, sorry to say. But yes the men that have the money and have wives that don't keep close tabs get away with it all. Stand up for yourselves or hell play the game too. All while enjoying that nice house and living he supplies!
Not me
· 1 year ago
That may be true for a lot of men, but not all. I've visited prostitutes a number of times because I do not want a relationship and a prostitute is the most expedient way of acheiving that. I would really prefer to fo find an escort I could see regularly and treat like a date when I see her, however escorts don't seem to want that, so I just accept the acting part as a negative aspect of the convenience.
Jan
· 10 months ago
So now I am really confused.......you don't want a relationship but you do want a woman you can sleep with but see more often than now.......isn't that in fact, a relationship ???? I think the reason men hire prostitutes is an overwhelming sense of entitlement. And as for victimless, I think the poor deceived wife would disagree
Steve
· 1 year ago
that was a nic and showy pile of bullshit. maybe a few guys who use prostitutes do it for that. but most of us just do it because it beats taking care of business ourselves. Not everyone wants to be a a 2-way relationship. A prostitute lets us have sex, Withalso having kids, A family, Double bills, And a 2 way relationship as stated. it is just a release like any other. A man gets energetic, he plays sports. A man gets drowsy he sleeps. A man gets hungry, h eats. A man gets horny and he is not in a relationship then he has 2 options. A whore or a hand.
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· 1 year ago
Prostitution's commonly happen when a wife doesn't have a time for her husband. Wife's are always tired cause of her hard work in house and to children. A man always ready for sex, he want to get want he wants.
menstrualpoetry
· 1 year ago
Spoken like a true misogynist asshole who believes women are asking for it when their husbands cheat on them with prostitutes, or any other woman, really. It is pretty pathetic to say, and sad if you really believe, that a man is always ready to jump into bed. That kind of mindset is just a list of excuses made for men to act like sexist pigs and luckily, women aren't forced to put up with bullshit that demeans them or makes them feel any less than equal to their male significant others.
Paul
· 10 months ago
The article is a bit biased in my opinion.
Women cheat on their husbands to, and Women can be just as selfish as men. Infact many married men go to hookers because they are not getting any at home. If their wives were more interested in sex maybe these men wouldn't have to resort to going to hookers.
The reasons why men seek out prostitutes is often so varied and complex it's impossible to get a striaght answer because every guy's reason is different. Quite frankly I really don't see how going to prostitutes is any morally inferior then picking up a stranger at a bar, or a golddigger who marries a rich guy for his money. Atleast with a prostitute everything is upfront. no bullshit, and no games.
Quite frankly it's not my problem what others choose to do in the privacy of their own homes or hotel rooms if you ask me, it should be legal.
Jimmy
· 8 months ago
What if your wife is an alcoholic and has been since she was a teenager and has every sexual hangup you can imagine. She used her body to get me to marry her and then basically cut me off. She even admitted that she did not get married to have sex. What was I supposed to do. My choices were not good ones but I stayed in the marriage, paid the bills ,put money away for retirement waited on her hand and foot. She stuck me in a room, verbally abused me when she drank and I walked on eggshells. I am not a bad person and I never abused or treated anybody with disrespect that I saw. Maybe I would have better off having an affair, but that would have meant using my heart. I am glad that I can look in the mirror and know I told the truth. I want win any popularity contest but in the end, I am at peace with myself.
Jimmy
· 8 months ago
I want to add a couple of things after reading all of the posts. She was drinking before we ever met. She used sex as a weapon. When my Father died in December, she sat at the Funeral luncheon under her breath said please eat. I used to be overweight because I would eat to cope. I lost over 80 pounds and women started to find me attractive. She wanted me Fat and Happy and not worthy of sex or only on her terms. Selfish or taking care of a basic need. She seemed to just be fine with me taking care of all the bills and everything else. When I forced the drinking to stop is when the anger and hate came full force. She didn't need me,when she had the drink and the many one night stands that she had and couldn't remember what she did the night before. Please advise me what should I have done differently.
happybird
· 8 months ago
In the U.S. you can buy a gun and will not break the law, but if you spend some happy time with a female sex worker you may be in trouble. This is very difficult to be understood.
Had an affair with a friend of mine and both of us had a fantasy of pretending she was a prostitute and I would act as a unknown client , as I did, but even knowing in advance were a fantasy she broke up our relationship because she alledged I had treated like as low life whore .
Nameless
· 6 months ago
I only masturbate to the idea of using a prostitute's service.
MaestraSierra
· 5 months ago
First to Andrew who posted, "so i think women should think twice before pointing a finger at men who visit prostitutes"
I only point to unfaithful men, because I have always been faithful to all of my boyfriends.
I think this article is hurtful for both gender. To women because it pictures them as victims who will blindly accept their cheating b@stard husbands and boyfriends (singles don't count they can f^ck an aids infected whore for all I care) and to men because it pictures them as all being primitive little beasts who don't have an ounce of intelligence or self control (just walking talking wallets without any true thoughts). I think prostitutes bring something important into our world, and that would be less rape, but the US society in particular has pictured prostitutes in a bad light. In other countries prostitutes are doing a service good for the community, since sex is part of life and without it none of us would've been born.
I think prostitutes get a bad reputation because of the stereotypical cheating husband and boyfriend. What constitutes cheating depends on the person too. For me it's the secrecy. I hate the sneaking around part. The, going behind the door bs. Luckily I have a man who tells me if he is with another woman. If I like her I would want to date or be with her as well. :) Plus my bf is the same with me. If I like to see another man and I make sure my bf knows about it so he wouldn't freak out. Again it's the sneaking and the secret bs that I hate so much. For other women,unfortunately, even if she found out or is told about it she gets all mad, which to me is silly but I have my ideals and these other women have theirs.
As for the whole harem bs. That's for people (men aren't alone, don't generalize women as all being prudes for one mate only relationship that in itself is bs too) who can afford it. Poor dead broke people should get that out of their minds. You know how expensive it is to keep a harem? To maintain it? People don't think about these things, particularly men, that's why they fail. Even religions that practice polygamy believe that the man should treat all his wives as equal (there is a country that states a woman should treat all her husbands the same as well). You buy a ring for one wife you have to buy a ring for the others as well. I did considered the thought of having multiple partners (more than just one reason), but with the way the US policies are and the economy it's not possible. Also just consider the by-product of sex all those poor kids. Again people need to think. I guess that's why US policies and the economy is failing people are thinking with their privates and not with their heads any more.
I wish everyone the best and have a great year.
mikey1234
· 4 months ago
For me, its all about the thrill. I can get laid by regular women, and I am in a serious relationship. But to me, its hard to beat the thrill of opening a door to a strange womens bedroom with the anticaption of what is too come. The thrill of unnkown. Perhaps its also the rush that you could get caught. I dont really know. But i know its all about that complusive rush that leads me to their hotel rooms every few months.
Scott
· 4 months ago
My 14yr marriage ended 6 months ago. We didn't have kids and I'm alone. I tried meeting women online to date, but they don't seem interested in me. I haven't gone on a regular date since my divorce. I started seeing prostitutes and I'm now a regular client of 1 prostitute. The sex is ok, but empty. She shows no emotion or feelings. I'm hurt by this. A prostitute can never take the place of a loving wife. I can't believe that after so many years of being a loyal husband, I'm now reduced to this. Sure, I can stop seeing her, but I hate being alone. For now, she is all I have. I'm starting to realize, seeing her is doing me more harm than good.
Name
· 2 months ago
what about lonely people. not everyone is married going to hookers, what about depressed people with nothing else. the world is not black and white!
menstrualpoetry
· 2 months ago
Yeah, some people have Holden Caulfield syndrome! Are these people also just looking for someone to talk to?
sandra mccarroll
· 1 month ago
i fond out my husband has been seeing hookers for years and ringing up for one about 30 times a day when i got copy off his moblephone bills also hiding money new notoes 140 pounds at a time also fond crimel records off his past incoulding hes been done with 7 sex attacts and indecent assault i have since moved out as he would not hes a taxie driver i worry about who he picks up at nigtht
confused
· 1 month ago
All of this for me comes down to selfish human nature of wanting the best of both worlds. Women complain about men and men complain about women. In my experience, little girls are taught its ok to cry and talk about your feeling, whereas little boys learn very quickly that extreme emotions are female things. They learn from a very young age to push these feelings aside. And generally most men that cheat on their wives with prostitues or anyone else, have had their heart broken by the first girl they loved and vowed never to experience that dispear again. They are too proud. The biggest thing I don't understand in both men and women, is if your drive and desire for sex is that great and you don't want the nagging wife or responsibilties of love, then why enter a relationship in the first place? The best answer I can come up with, is as humans we all want to feel loved and it's too scary for most people to make that decision to be the life-long player having endless flings, without too much attachment or depth as it means you miss out on having that person to support you and love you and care for you. So as a result, we think we can have the best of both worlds.
squareeyes
· 4 days ago
Tonight I went out for a Christmas dinner with my work colleagues. A woman who had been flurting with me for a few weeks left the party with a married man who has an eight year old child. She knew all this. Sure she didn't have to leave with me but she sure didn'thave to leave with a married man. Until society stops treating women as little angels things aren't going to get better. Men are getting a raw deal too, not just women.
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thanks for post, will trackback.
Hmmm..."A prostitute serves as a slave to a man’s needs. She is an actress, although to the man, he does not care that what he is receiving for his money is a one-woman play and an act that he gets to be nothing but a prop in. " This is a sweeping generalization that contradicts my and plenty of others' working experience. Did I feel like a slave to individual clients? No. Not at all. In the grand scheme perhaps but not directly with my clients. As wrong as they may be for cheating and lying, they're not all aggressive and violent. Selfish? Sure. But that's not synonomous with intentionally cruel.
Something I found odd right from the get-go was that many of the men were seeking validation and reassurance and really want to believe our words are genuine. For some men, the ego is satiated by displays of moronic macho aggression, but plenty of others just want to buy the illusion that they can satisfy a woman. IME, they were not unpleasant to spend time with, and plenty do make efforts to please us, albeit unsuccessfully in many cases. For me, what was really unexpected was how many men really seem to want to be coddled, petted, and reassured, even outside of a sexual context. Going in I braced myself for the "wham-bam" attitudes and treatment, but that turned out to be exception rather than rule. My clients generally demanded lots of time and attention.
Just pointing out that variation does exist within prostitution. The scripts all ultimately lead to the same ends, but they're not written identically and there is no set tone. We may be actresses, but that doesn't mean we're incapable of experiencing some measure of pleasure. There are women that hate going through the motions, understandably, but that doesn't apply to every prostitute. Hell, the sex was one of my favorite parts to the date, at least for a few years there. The root of the problem is male privilege, which makes the selfish sex and violence a reality out of a sense of entitlement to do so.
Why do men see prostitutes? You really want to know? Because they CAN. What kind of men come to us? Any kind, all kinds. Preachers, pediatricians, attorneys, techies, entrepreneurs, utility workers, foreign exchange students, Catholic school teachers, professors, truck drivers, chefs, men that live in their parents' basement, law enforcement officials, military personnel, veterans, and, of course, politicians. Any race, any religion (in fact the uber-religious seem especially enchanted with seeing prostitutes), just so long as he can afford to pay. And there is a price out there to suit any budget.
Sure, some men are trying to escape their responsibilities and troubles. And some are just misbehaving little shits, screaming "Look what I can do!" Many are quite smug, impressed with their ability to pull a fast one on their wives. A few claim their wives have serious medical or psychological conditions, removing intimacy at home as an option. And as another commenter mentioned: some men just feel they're entitled to a harem (though most freak at the idea of their wives taking another lover).
So, IME, the men weren't usually overly-aggressive or outwardly resentful (though it certainly does happen). Most of mine could be considered downright jovial, but why wouldn't they be? They're living it up! They have money to burn!
As the clients so fondly like to remind us: "We don't pay you to fuck, we pay you to leave afterwards!" Yep, it's their party and they're all hopped up on superiority, insensitivity and disillusionment.
Extended exposure leads to jadishness.
They'll cry when they're caught, but it's just another act. Once forgiven and enough time has elapsed, many return to seeing prostitutes. Sometimes I wonder whose the greater actor here, us or them? The performances over the phone talking to their wives, with a woman laying in the bed waiting... It leaves little doubt of their overall opinion of women. The mothers of their children, their wives, the women they parade around in their politics and religion to promote the "sanctity of marriage"...and not only do they lie and cheat, but they're awfully damn proud of themselves. Do you know why? Because chances are she's going to take him back. He knows our dirty little secret...we depend on him.
Now, why do politicians cheat when they have so much to lose? Because they possess this false sense of invincibility. They're supermen, drunk on status and power, who can do what they want even if it blatantly contradicts the values they judge others by and profess to hold dear. It's bullshit. But most politicians are bullshit. Besides, all of their buddies are doing the same thing and they don't want to feel left out.
Reader's Digest made the most sense! ;)
But can you prove that the opposite is false, that is, that the marriage is actually a failure (romantically and/or sexually speaking) and going with prostitutes is a consequence?
I'm not supporting prostitutes of course, but to me it's more likely, though again each case is different, that a marriage is unsatisfactory and that a man tries to escape from it, rather than a marriage is assumed to be satisfactory and the man tries to escape because is sick.
Either way, I think prostitutes do serve an important function - overall a victimless crime when only adults are involved, IMO.
"Our culture represents women as high maintenance individuals who must be cared for by a man and are otherwise helpless in life, always needing the attention and demanding the security of a man."
This is true to an extent. This is the effect that media and mass communication has on men. But to say that "those exaggerations are often false", excuses the fact that this effects women also. Men may feel that their partners need them for stability, but in many cases, the women begin to believe it also. This view within our culture effects women just as much as men.
So, it is not only men that need to change, it is women also. They're not entirely innocent, and nothing will change until the mindset of men AND women change.
Thanks.
the reason why prostitution exists is because men need casual sex more than women. if women and men both needed casual sex equally there would be no need for somthing like prostitution as they would do it with each other.
seconldy those women who want casual sex would be very selective and choosing only men of higher standards. bcos women are in a bargaining position.
the result is that the average male has limited opportunites to get casual sex socially. hence the need for prostitutes.
as far as married people are concerned women cheat on husbands too. but they wont need male prostitutes as they can easily do it with some hot neighbour guy.
men are willing to lower their standards significantly when it comes to casual sex.
so i think women should think twice before pointing a finger at men who visit prostitutes
I can not say I blame the women because yes there are a lot of women that only do it for the money. They will have to deal with their consequences they will face with karma soon enough in their own lives.
I did enjoy the article. However excuses, excuses!
Women stop being the fools. Know that these things happen on a regular. And thinking that it won't happen to you because your family is well off is idiocy. You are the main ones, sorry to say. But yes the men that have the money and have wives that don't keep close tabs get away with it all.
Stand up for yourselves or hell play the game too. All while enjoying that nice house and living he supplies!
And as for victimless, I think the poor deceived wife would disagree
Women cheat on their husbands to, and Women can be just as selfish as men. Infact many married men go to hookers because they are not getting any at home. If their wives were more interested in sex maybe these men wouldn't have to resort to going to hookers.
The reasons why men seek out prostitutes is often so varied and complex it's impossible to get a striaght answer because every guy's reason is different. Quite frankly I really don't see how going to prostitutes is any morally inferior then picking up a stranger at a bar, or a golddigger who marries a rich guy for his money. Atleast with a prostitute everything is upfront. no bullshit, and no games.
Quite frankly it's not my problem what others choose to do in the privacy of their own homes or hotel rooms if you ask me, it should be legal.
This is very difficult to be understood.
Had an affair with a friend of mine and both of us had a fantasy of pretending she was a prostitute and I would act as a unknown client , as I did, but even knowing in advance were a fantasy she broke up our relationship because she alledged I had treated like as low life whore .
I only point to unfaithful men, because I have always been faithful to all of my boyfriends.
I think this article is hurtful for both gender. To women because it pictures them as victims who will blindly accept their cheating b@stard husbands and boyfriends (singles don't count they can f^ck an aids infected whore for all I care) and to men because it pictures them as all being primitive little beasts who don't have an ounce of intelligence or self control (just walking talking wallets without any true thoughts). I think prostitutes bring something important into our world, and that would be less rape, but the US society in particular has pictured prostitutes in a bad light. In other countries prostitutes are doing a service good for the community, since sex is part of life and without it none of us would've been born.
I think prostitutes get a bad reputation because of the stereotypical cheating husband and boyfriend. What constitutes cheating depends on the person too. For me it's the secrecy. I hate the sneaking around part. The, going behind the door bs. Luckily I have a man who tells me if he is with another woman. If I like her I would want to date or be with her as well. :) Plus my bf is the same with me. If I like to see another man and I make sure my bf knows about it so he wouldn't freak out. Again it's the sneaking and the secret bs that I hate so much. For other women,unfortunately, even if she found out or is told about it she gets all mad, which to me is silly but I have my ideals and these other women have theirs.
As for the whole harem bs. That's for people (men aren't alone, don't generalize women as all being prudes for one mate only relationship that in itself is bs too) who can afford it. Poor dead broke people should get that out of their minds. You know how expensive it is to keep a harem? To maintain it? People don't think about these things, particularly men, that's why they fail. Even religions that practice polygamy believe that the man should treat all his wives as equal (there is a country that states a woman should treat all her husbands the same as well). You buy a ring for one wife you have to buy a ring for the others as well. I did considered the thought of having multiple partners (more than just one reason), but with the way the US policies are and the economy it's not possible. Also just consider the by-product of sex all those poor kids. Again people need to think. I guess that's why US policies and the economy is failing people are thinking with their privates and not with their heads any more.
I wish everyone the best and have a great year.
In my experience, little girls are taught its ok to cry and talk about your feeling, whereas little boys learn very quickly that extreme emotions are female things. They learn from a very young age to push these feelings aside. And generally most men that cheat on their wives with prostitues or anyone else, have had their heart broken by the first girl they loved and vowed never to experience that dispear again. They are too proud.
The biggest thing I don't understand in both men and women, is if your drive and desire for sex is that great and you don't want the nagging wife or responsibilties of love, then why enter a relationship in the first place? The best answer I can come up with, is as humans we all want to feel loved and it's too scary for most people to make that decision to be the life-long player having endless flings, without too much attachment or depth as it means you miss out on having that person to support you and love you and care for you. So as a result, we think we can have the best of both worlds.